Our vestry members serve 3 year terms, and we elect a new class of vestrymen and women each year. Nominations are made by a committee and by the parish at large during our annual meeting.  We encourage anyone who wants to serve on the vestry to raise a hand and let us know.  This is not a closed group or a club of some kind.  We draw our leaders from across our parish spectrum, and we don’t want people to be shy about expressing an interest in this kind of service. The eligibility requirement for election to the Vestry is as follows:

Canon 11, Section 4.
Only lay persons, who are confirmed adult communicants in good standing of the church, as defined in General Convention Canon 1.17, shall be eligible for election as Vestry members of such church. However, regardless of eligibility of a person for election, no person shall be elected at duly convened congregational meetings to consecutive full terms on a congregation’s Vestry or Vestry Committee.

Current vestry members include Missy Roberts, Senior Warden; Wayne Dementi, Junior Warden; Joe Cheely, Treasurer; Fran Jones, Register; Jeff Allende, Jill Aveson, Ashley Barlow, Sam Bruce, Ros Bowers, Owen Conway, Linda Hyslop, Robin Lind, Jesse McCoy, and Barbara Tavenner.


Class of 2025 Vestry Members:

St. Mary’s elected four new members of the Vestry at the Annual Congregational Meeting on Sunday, January 30, 2022. The four new Vestry members are:

Jeff Allende

Jeff’s first Episcopalian memories are participating as an acolyte and being confirmed at St. Stephen’s Episcopal Church in Beckley, WV. When he moved to Richmond after college, he attended St. Stephen’s Episcopal Church where he and his wife Page were married, and their kids, Ashe and Kaki, were baptized. When Ashe was a middle schooler, he became less eager to join the family at church and they realized that perhaps St Stephen’s had become too big a congregation for their family. The Allendes began searching for a church home where they truly felt they belonged, and, thankfully, found St. Mary’s. That was 12 years ago, and they couldn’t be happier. Both Ashe and Kaki were confirmed at St Mary’s, and Ashe and his wife, Catherine, were married by David May in April of 2021. Page’s passion for fostering newborns has led to many “baby blessing” services in Little St. Mary’s as well. Jeff has been honored to have served on the St. Mary’s Vestry previously, to have taught youth (middle school) Sunday school, participated in the Outreach and CARITAS Committees, led a pastoral care team, and to have participated in two discernments.


Ros Bowers

Over the years, St. Mary’s Church has been a part of many joyous and tragic times for Ros. He and his three sisters were baptized at St. Mary’s. In 1971, Holt Sauder, buried his father. A few years later, his mother and stepfather Armistead Talman were married at St. Mary’s. Throughout Ros’ childhood, John Miller shepherded he and his sisters through Confirmation classes and Acolyte duty. Then two of his three children were baptized at St. Mary’s and all three were confirmed and have been acolytes. He and his wife Didi have been Sunday School teachers, prayer readers, and ushers. They’ve enjoyed participating in CARITAS and other St. Mary’s outreach programs. Ros served on the vestry once before and was previously co-chair of the Annual Stewardship Campaign with Jim Crawford. In addition, he has served on the Finance Committee and is currently a member of the Legacy Committee. In 2018, his stepfather Armistead Talman was buried in the churchyard at St. Mary’s. But then in 2020, his mother Peggy and Austin Brockenbrough were married by David May at St. Mary’s in a beautiful, outdoor service in the midst of a pandemic. Ros wrote, “[this church] has been a part of many joyous and tragic times, but I am very grateful to St. Mary’s and am excited to serve on the Vestry.”


Linda Hyslop

Linda is a lifelong Episcopalian, who has attended St. John’s in Hopewell, Wicomico Parish in the Northern Neck, and Hickory Neck in Toano (her grandmother’s church). She graduated from St. Mary’s College in Raleigh and Louisiana State University in New Orleans. Linda and John married after his first year of medical school at Tulane. Following that, Linda worked in IT (long before it was called IT) in New Orleans and Richmond until John completed his residency. Prior to joining St. Mary’s, they were members of Forest Hill Presbyterian Church, but then became members of St. Mary’s in the mid 1990’s with four young children. Linda initially volunteered with Sunday School and later served with the Fellowship Committee, CARITAS, Altar Guild, joined a Pastoral Care Team, and became an usher. She treasures the friendships made working with these groups and is grateful for the dedicated staff and others who faithfully work to make St. Mary’s such a special place. Linda is honored to be considered to serve on the Vestry.


Barbara Tavenner

Barbara Tavenner is a cradle Episcopalian and was raised at St. Paul’s Episcopal Church in Greenville, NC. She’s been married for 31 years to Bill Tavenner, also a cradle Episcopalian, and they have three sons: Jack (27), Cab (24), and Ben (21). Barbara attended UNC-Chapel Hill, majoring in Finance and worked as a banker for First Union Bank before becoming a stay-at-home mom. Barbara and Bill settled in his hometown of Richmond 20 years ago after six corporate moves and fully enjoy calling Virginia their home. In her free time, Barbara enjoys traveling, playing pickleball, needlepointing, volunteering, and walking their two Golden Retrievers. Currently, she co-chairs the St. Mary’s Newcomer’s Committee with Patsy Simril. Barbara also works part time with Naborforce helping senior citizens by providing social interaction, support for errands and transportation to appointments. She is honored and excited to serve St. Mary’s Church as a new vestry member!


Class of 2024 Vestry Members:

St. Mary’s elected four new members of the Vestry at the Virtual Annual Congregational Meeting on Sunday, February 28, 2021. The four new Vestry members are:

Ashley Barlow

Ashley is a lifelong Episcopalian and grew up attending St. Mary’s. When she and her family moved back to Richmond in 2012, they tried out a variety of other Episcopal churches in the Richmond area, but that first Sunday back at St. Mary’s felt like coming home and they have attended St. Mary’s ever since. Ashley has been active in the St. Mary’s community by teaching Sunday School, helping to plan Vacation Bible School, and participating on the Children’s Ministry Committee. Ashley looks forward to growing in faith and God’s love by serving the St. Mary’s community in this new way.


Sam Bruce

Sam’s, along with his wife Debbie’s, search for a spiritual abode came to an end in November 1986 when Jimmy Burnham’s words filled them with joy and cemented their faith in St. Mary’s community. Jimmy said, “Welcome home.” The following October, Bishop Phillip Smith received Sam and Debbie into the arms of St. Mary’s and their new Episcopal faith. Bishop Smith wrote these words in Sam and Debbie’s Books of Common Prayer, “Welcome home!” Sam immediately began to work with our youth, serving as a Sunday school teacher, and eventually becoming Superintendent of our Sunday school. He also served on the Vestry during the construction of ‘Big’ St. Mary’s. Sam also served on the Organ Committee when St. Mary’s received the gift to install our glorious Schantz organ. Professionally, Sam is a Civil Engineer and worked for James River Corporation for most of his career. In 2007 he left the industrial world, joined the University of Richmond, and started a small consulting firm. He currently teaches career management, personality, leadership, and problem solving in the form of 6 Sigma and Lean. He is honored to serve his family’s spiritual home and looks forward to our continued journey together.


Owen Conway

A lifelong Episcopalian, Owen became a member of St. Mary’s in 2000 when she moved to Richmond as an adult. St. Mary’s has always had a special place in Owen’s heart, as her grandparents were members, and her parents were married in Little St. Mary’s in 1963. Owen and her husband, Steve, have three children–Catherine (27), Sarah (24), and Webb (11). Their children have been baptized, confirmed, and/or married at beautiful St. Mary’s! Owen has volunteered in the nursery, taught Sunday school, and served on the Children’s Ministries Committee. She has also enjoyed participating as a greeter and a lay pastoral care team member. Owen is an attorney with Herndon Law P.C. specializing in criminal litigation and estate planning and administration.


Jesse McCoy

Jesse was married to Anne at St. Mary’s and is father to Eleanor and Harry who were both baptized at St. Mary’s. Jesse’s St. Mary’s journey started with meeting with the Rev. Dr. John Miller (prior to marrying Anne) at the front of New St. Mary’s and most recently continued by serving as part of the team that transformed some t-posts, greenery, and a projection screen into a manger for the drive-through Christmas pageant. Through the years at St Mary’s, Jesse has been honored to help with Sunday School, CARITAS dinners, planning for guest speakers, Lay Eucharistic Ministry, fishing club, and helped with a handful of other “things that needed doing.” Jesse grew up on a farm in Timberville, outside Harrisonburg, but has called Richmond and St. Mary’s home for a decade and a half. Jesse is excited about being part of the Vestry based on a conversation he had with the Rev. Andrew Moore years ago that echoes anytime he thinks about volunteering at St Mary’s: “The more you give to St. Mary’s, the more it gives to you.”


Class of 2023 Vestry Members:

St. Mary’s elected four new members of the Vestry at the Annual Congregational Meeting on Sunday, February 2, 2020. The four new Vestry members are:

Jill Aveson

Jill Aveson is a lifelong Episcopalian who spent her early years in Connecticut, but most of her life in the Richmond area. She joined St. Mary’s church in the late 80’s and she and her husband, Bobby, were married in New St. Mary’s the first year it was opened. Jill and Bobby have three adult children, Bobby (24), John Ryan (22) and Lydia (21), who were all baptized and confirmed at St. Mary’s. She spent many years teaching Sunday School and has served on the Children’s Ministry committee. In addition, she currently serves on the Welcoming Committee. Jill received both her BS degree in Psychology/Business and her MBA from the University of Richmond. She has been at Collegiate School for over 20 years and serves as their Director of Human Resources. Prior to joining Collegiate, she held leadership positions in Human Resources in both the insurance and manufacturing sectors.


Wayne Dementi, Junior Warden

Wayne Dementi is president of Dementi Milestone Publishing, and has been in the book publishing world for 15 years, having released over 250 books, most of which celebrate Richmond and Virginia storylines. He is a University of Richmond graduate, with an MBA from Old Dominion University. In addition, Wayne is active in the Goochland community having served as president of Goochland Fellowship and Family Services (now Goochland Cares), the Goochland Chamber of
Commerce, the Goochland Historical Society, the Goochland Rotary Club and Goochland Pet Lovers. Wayne and his wife, Dianne live in Goochland, and have been members of St. Mary’s Episcopal Church since 2016. They regularly attend the 9:00 a.m. service.


Robin Lind

On his very first Sunday at St. Mary’s, Robin witnessed Holt Souder hand over the reins to John Miller with the reminder to the congregation that the initials “IHS” carved on the Holy Table did not refer to Isobel & Holt Souder. Robin has ever since been an enthusiastic supporter who has tried to show up, pay attention, lean in, and stay strong, sometimes achieving two or three out of the four at one time. He has been a Sunday School Teacher, member of the Fellowship and Breakfast Committees, newsletter managing editor, Region XII Representative, Delegate/Alternate, 1984-2005 Diocesan Councils; Lay Eucharistic Minister and, with his wife, Kitty Williams, was a graduate in 2000 of the first EFM Class, taught by Christopher Brookfield. Since 2001 he has been a member of the Goochland County Electoral Board, supervising elections in the county. He is a former newspaper journalist, editor and publisher. He is the author of several books, including “Stewards of the Mysteries of God, The Story of the Bishops of the Diocese of Virginia,” published in 1996. He and Kitty, a former member of the vestry, live in Manakin-Sabot. Their children, Frankie and Maria, were raised in St. Mary’s; Maria was married here in 2003 and her twins, Lochlan and Thatcher, were baptized here in 2008.


Missy Roberts, Senior Warden

Missy and her family have been members of St. Mary’s since moving to Richmond in 1997. In the ensuing years she taught Sunday school, Vacation Bible School, chaired the Children’s Ministries committee, served on the Youth Ministries committee, and currently helps out with church dinners and receptions. She previously served on the vestry and chaired the St. Mary’s Preschool board. Missy is currently a member of the Alumnae Board of Hollins University and works in Human Resources at Collegiate School. She is married to Matson Roberts and has two adult children.