The High Bar

A Sermon for the 19th Sunday after Pentecost

Proper 22 – Year B – 07 October 2012

Eleanor Lee Wellford,  Associate Rector

 

Mark 10:2-16

Some Pharisees came, and to test Jesus they asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” He answered them, “What did Moses command you?” They said, “Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of dismissal and to divorce her.” But Jesus said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart he wrote this commandment for you. But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Then in the house the disciples asked him again about this matter. He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”

People were bringing little children to him in order that he might touch them; and the disciples spoke sternly to them. But when Jesus saw this, he was indignant and said to them, “Let the little children come to me; do not stop them; for it is to such as these that the kingdom of God belongs. Truly I tell you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will never enter it.” And he took them up in his arms, laid his hands on them, and blessed them.

 

 Have you ever been asked a question that is just a set-up for a trap?  Until I caught on to her, my daughter used to love doing that to me, especially when she wanted me to buy something for her.  She would ask:  “Don’t you want to make me happy?” 

And of course I’m not above setting my own traps, especially for my husband.  One of my favorites involves my cooking. Thankfully, Tenny will eat just about any uncreative dish that I set in front of him.  But every now and then I try out a new recipe and I’ll ask him: “How’d you like it?”  The real trap is in how long it takes him to answer that question.  If he hesitates, then I know he didn’t like it, which will upset me.  If he answers too quickly then I know he’s just telling me what I want to hear, and that upsets me, too!

No win questions are those that are going to convict us no matter how we answer them!  They are also known as double binds and they are packed full of judgment.  And usually the balance of power is in favor of the one setting the trap. So, if you find yourself about to become trapped, the best thing to do is to take a deep breath and try not to take the bait because that’s what usually hooks into something inside of us that causes us to become angry or defensive which plays right into the hands of the trapper.

But if we know that about ourselves we can, as wise Dr. Seuss said: “Be who (we) are and say what (we) feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”  In other words, be true to ourselves.

In this morning’s reading from Mark, Jesus was confronted by the Pharisees who were looking to trap him.  It’s not the first time they tried to trap him nor was it the last.  The issue was divorce, which during the 1st century, was politically and socially sensitive.

The Pharisees knew that Jesus agreed with John the Baptist on the issue of divorce – an unpopular belief that had landed John in prison.  So, these experts of the law were hoping that Jesus would fall for their trap and give an answer that would do the same for him or at least destroy his credibility.  So they asked him: “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?”  As much as they expected Jesus to say “No”, he turned the trap back onto them with a question of his own.  “What did Moses command you?” he asked.  And they dutifully answered that Moses had indeed made a provision for divorce, thus making it lawful for a man to divorce a woman.

 Jesus could have said: “Well, then, you have your answer” but he didn’t say that.  He made sure that they and anyone listening knew that they were all missing the whole point about marriage by just focusing on divorce.  So Jesus said: “When two people marry, they become one flesh and therefore what God has joined together no one should separate” (Mark 10:8-9). 

Jesus had successfully disarmed the Pharisees’ trap but his disciples wanted further explanation.  It was at this point that Jesus left no room for interpretation when he said:  “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery” (Mark 10:11-12). 

Whoa!  That stings because even in our day and time, divorce is still a sensitive issue. It’s a rare family who has not been affected by divorce.  In fact, statistics show that half of all marriages today end that way.

So what are we to make of Jesus’ words?  They weren’t unique to Mark’s gospel.  Matthew and Luke recorded Jesus saying something similar in their writings.  And apparently the apostle Paul discouraged divorce, urging women not to separate from their husbands, or, if separated, to remain unmarried (1Corinthians 7:10-11). 

C.S. Lewis wrote about divorce with the same conviction as Jesus had spoken about it.  In his book Mere Christianity, he argues that Christian marriage is for life and that anyone who marries a divorced person commits adultery.  He was unmarried at the time and probably believed he would remain that way.  But as fate would have it, he created a double bind for himself.  Little did Lewis know that he would meet and fall deeply in love with a divorced woman. 

This was captured in the movie called Shadowlands.  There’s a scene in that movie in which Lewis asks his close friend, who was also an Anglican priest, to officiate at their marriage.  The priest assured him that the bishop would never consent to it.  In defiance of that answer, Lewis searched and searched until he finally found someone to perform the ceremony which took place in a hospital room where Lewis and his fiancée, Joy, who was there because of cancer, responded to the same words we know so well in the Celebration and Blessing of a Marriage in the Book of Common Prayer

So, how can such a reversal of a deep-seated conviction be explained?  Did Lewis simply disregard what Jesus had taught in scripture about divorce when it ran counter to what he wanted to do with his whole heart?  Some biographers write that Lewis rationalized that since Joy married a divorced man the first time she was married that the marriage had never been recognized by the church.  If she wasn’t really married, then she wasn’t really divorced. 

Whenever I am asked to officiate at a wedding in which the man or woman has been divorced, I must ask the Bishop for permission to do so since priests stand in for Bishops in solemnizing unions.  The real issue in granting permission isn’t about adultery, though, as Jesus said it should be.  It’s about practical matters such as making sure all issues surrounding the divorce have been put to rest to avoid bringing them into the new marriage.

On one hand, marriages are meant to last for better or for worse until death separates the couple.  The Prayer Book is very specific about that.  On the other hand, the Prayer Book is very specific about the fact that marriage “is intended by God for the mutual joy” of that couple.  So what happens when, as Jesus said, our hearts become hardened and abuse and anger and irreconcilable differences and unmet needs and miscommunication and things beyond our control all tear at the fabric of a marriage to the point that it becomes joyless?   What then?

I haven’t yet encountered any couples who enter into marriage with the idea that it isn’t going to work. Otherwise, that would make a mockery of the sacred institution.  And Jesus was too adamant about divorce to simply ignore what he said.  Jesus was a perfect person who knew himself well and who always set a high bar in what he said or did because he didn’t worry about whom he might offend or what other people were thinking about him.  If Jesus put divorce in the context of marriage, then I’ll risk putting marriage in the context of being human and admit that we all fall short of the high bar that Jesus sets for us.  And isn’t that when we are most in need of compassion rather than judgment?

 All we have to do is read just a little bit farther in today’s text to witness Jesus as the picture of compassion, taking small children into his arms and blessing them.  Doesn’t that compassion also extend to divorced people?  Maybe I’m no better than the Pharisees in posing such a question.  It sounds too much like my daughter asking me “Don’t you want to make me happy?”

Jesus isn’t about making us happy nor is he about choosing who gets compassion and who doesn’t.  He’s about restoring relationships, mostly our broken relationship with God.  So, it’s no wonder he would favor marriage lasting a lifetime; and in a perfect world, it would.  But nothing is perfect about our world.  The best we can do, is to know ourselves well, and be true to ourselves, and when it comes to ourselves and to others, to choose compassion over judgment and keep reaching for the high bar.

Where Are You?

A Sermon for the 20th Sunday after Pentecost

Proper 23 – Year B – RCL – 14 October 2012

John Edward Miller, Rector

 

Then Job answered:
“Today also my complaint is bitter;
his hand is heavy despite my groaning.
Oh, that I knew where I might find him,
that I might come even to his dwelling!

I would lay my case before him,
and fill my mouth with arguments.
I would learn what he would answer me,
and understand what he would say to me.

Would he contend with me in the greatness of his power?
No; but he would give heed to me.

There an upright person could reason with him,
and I should be acquitted forever by my judge.  

“If I go forward, he is not there;
or backward, I cannot perceive him;
on the left he hides, and I cannot behold him;
I turn to the right, but I cannot see him.

God has made my heart faint;
the Almighty has terrified me;
If only I could vanish in darkness,
and thick darkness would cover my face!”

                                                                                                               –         Job 23:1-9, 16-17

 

 The Collect

Lord, we pray that your grace may always precede and follow us, that we may continually be given to good works; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. Amen.

 

A recent Peanuts comic strip featured a classic response to the problem of pain. Linus has gotten a splinter while climbing over rail fencing with Charlie Brown. When Lucy approaches and notices Linus’ problem, she begins to pontificate. “Ah ha!” she cries, “That means you’re being punished for something!” Then she questions the suffering Linus, saying, “What have you done wrong lately?” Linus, who is surprised at her callous question, replies vigorously. “I haven’t done ANYTHING wrong!” he shouts. Not being one who likes having her opinions challenged, Lucy bears down on the evidence. She states, “You have a sliver, haven’t you? That’s a misfortune, isn’t it? You’re being punished with misfortune because you’ve been bad!”

Charlie Brown tries to come to Linus’ defense, but is quickly cut off at the knees. Lucy bellows at him, “What do you know about it, Charlie Brown? This is a sign! This is a direct sign of punishment! Linus has done something very wrong, and now he has to suffer misfortune!” Then she berates them both, shouting, “I know all about these things! I know that a . . .” Just then, Linus holds up his finger and proclaims, “It’s out! It just popped right out.” Annoyed, Lucy wheels around and begins to walk away from the scene. Linus smirks a little as he follows her with the words: “Thus endeth the theological lesson for today!”[1]

It may have ended for Linus and Charlie Brown, but the “lesson” Lucy sought to drive home has been difficult to remove from our thinking. For at least the last 3000 years, the idea of just deserts has been growing like kudzu in our collective consciousness. When pain and suffering strike, the knee jerk reflex is to ask, “What have I done to deserve this?” The assumption that we get what we deserve is ancient, and it is persistent. The reason is that we humans have always hoped that our experience is not  random or accidental, but that that there is a logical mind or just principle governing our existence. As Rabbi Kushner is fond of saying, “People like to think that someone’s driving the bus.”

In the biblical context, that someone is the LORD of hosts, the Maker of heaven and earth. Through the ministry of Moses, the God of Israel has revealed and given his people the Law as the guide to a righteous and holy life. The Law is set forth in commandments that are often introduced by the words, “thou shalt” and “thou shalt not.” These rules are not suggestions; they are imperatives. The God who creates us and calls us to community requires moral responsibility in return. The Book of Deuteronomy describes what happens when we heed, or ignore, the Law. It sets up a cause and effect principle of justice that is directly correlated with our behavior. The Deuteronomic principle states that obeying the Law brings blessing, and disobedience brings disaster – the curse of retribution. It’s that simple. Like the law of karma, it says, “you reap what you sow.”    

But what if you’ve tried hard to live a decent life, and you’ve obeyed all the rules, kept your permanent record clean, and find out that you’re fatally ill? Or lose the most precious person in your life? Or discover that something beyond your control causes the demise of everything that you’ve worked for? The Deuteronomic principle says that these things were not accidents – i.e., that they just “happened,” but that they were the just reward for something bad that you did.

 Job is the story of someone in that very situation. His was the biblical voice of everyone who suffers but refuses to accept that he has caused his own tragedy. Given the endurance of Deuteronomy’s view, which offers a simplistic formula that blames the victim, it is a miracle that the Book of Job – with its push back against insensitive legalism – is in the same Bible as the Book of Deuteronomy.  And yet, there they are, in the same Old Testament by the grace of God. Perhaps that it is a witness to divine inspiration of the Scriptures. Balance is a good thing; it enables us to take a more comprehensive look at complex issues, rather than to grasp the easier view, and hold fast, sacrificing people to support an unbending principle.

 Job knew himself; he was not blinded by denial. He had done no wrong, and deserved no punishment. He had suffered the loss of virtually everyone and everything important to him. Further, he had been afflicted with a loathsome skin ailment that made his misery visible for all to see and scoff at. In keeping with his core beliefs, Job attributed his suffering to God’s will. To his mind that would have been the only cause of pain to consider. God was the LORD of creation, and no other power could have done this. Still, Job refrained from blaming God, saying, “Though he slay me yet will I trust in him.”[2] His patience became a legendary virtue typifying longsuffering faith.

 However, a group of “friends” would not allow Job to cope silently with his pain. Their visits to the grieving Job had little to do with care and much to do with torture. Each friend was certain of himself, never doubting that the Deuteronomic principle was accurate and airtight. The point of coming to Job was to convince him that he had done something to deserve his afflictions, and then to persuade him to repent of the evil. In other words, the friends were like Lucy in the Peanuts comic. Only Job’s condition, unlike Linus’, did not improve. And the friends nearly destroyed him with their relentless battering. Nevertheless, Job never caved. He was innocent, and his protest courageously maintained that position.

Job was confused about God’s part in his suffering. He refused to reject God, despite the injustice of his fate. Instead, his reaction to his friends’ analysis was to seek an audience with God. In this morning’s text we hear Job’s insistence that he needs to go to God’s house to find him. The language is very down to earth. Job’s longing is to go up to God’s door and knock until God opens up and stands there face-to-face with his plaintive servant. It’s clear that Job expects God to be there, to hear him out, and to answer his questions. What is more, it’s obvious that Job expects God to be just and righteous, as well as attentive and receptive to his needs.

But the problem is that Job doesn’t know where God lives. And he is so worn out from having insult after insult piled onto his horrific injuries that he’s reached the breaking point. He says that his “complaint is bitter,” because search as he may, he could not locate God’s whereabouts and there argue his case. His frustration has tumbled into disappointment; his spirit has sunk into despair. Job can’t find God, the one with the answer to his perplexity. He feels mistreated, isolated, and angry. All he wants now is to disappear into the darkness that has descended upon his life. At that moment for him, all was lost.   

“Where is God?”

Elie Wiesel heard that question at an execution. He was a prisoner of the Nazis, interned at a concentration camp. And yet he had committed no crime; he was an innocent teenage boy. The only reason for his being in that death camp was that he is Jewish.

The scene where the question arose was awful. It took the rigors of concentration camp subsistence to a new depth of horror. Three men had been accused of stealing, and they were swiftly and coldly condemned to death by hanging. Two of the accused were fully grown; the other was a frail youth. The whole camp was ordered to watch the execution. It was supposed to teach everyone an object lesson about stealing.

When the platform dropped beneath the feet of the three hapless individuals, the two heavier men died quickly; their fall made their agony brief. However, the youth was not so lucky. His slim frame worked against him. When the rope tightened, he simply choked; his neck was not broken. Slow suffocation prolonged his suffering.

Meanwhile the other prisoners watched. It was a maddening spectacle, and the injustice of it, combined with the prisoners’ helplessness to stop the boy’s pain, made the experience excruciating to witness.

Elie Wiesel was haunted by the memory of that horrifying scene. It was etched on his memory with an iron pen. He recalled hearing the complaint of someone in the crowd on that awful day. The voice kept on asking, “Where is God? Where is God? Where is God now?” And he also remembers a voice rising up within him – a voice that took the complainer’s cry to the heart of darkness. His inner voice grimly shouted, “He is there on the gallows.”[3]

Elie Wiesel’s judgment told him that, based on the evidence available, God was dead. Or, it may have meant that there was no God at all. His pronouncement was made in the midst of fear, and loss, and death. During that time in Elie Wiesel’s youth, it was perpetually night. There was no light, only darkness; he could not see. And locating God’s whereabouts in that context seemed to be futile and absurd.

Elie Wiesel was Job when he considered that question. But he when he answered it, he and Job parted company, at least for a while. As bad as it got for Job, with all of the loss and torment, he never gave up on God. In fact, he implored God to come down, and explain what in the name of all that is holy was going on.

And, you know, the most amazing thing happened: God came, and spoke to Job. That part of the story is hugely significant. Beyond all of the hurt and disappointment that Job absorbed, there was a spiritual threat to his existence. Job’s faith was under attack. He was a victim of evil; his very being, which was characterized by patient trust in his LORD, had been subjected to withering fire. Not only was he barraged by the opinions of unhelpful interpreters, but he was also wounded by the contradiction between religious doctrine and his experience. Job believed that the innocent do not suffer; but he was innocent, and he was suffering. That fundamental disconnect compounded the tragedies that had shaken his foundations. The temptation to throw in the towel loomed. His vision was clouded, his outlook darkened, but Job did not give up. Even though he could not reach out and grab God as he reeled from the hits he was taking, Job lifted up his weary head and prayed. He shouted out his plea for God to come, and brighten his gloom.

And the LORD showed up. In response to Job’s prayer God appeared. His presence was light enough to pierce the darkness. It gave Job assurance that he was not alone in his suffering. It showed him that God was with him, rather than against him. It revealed that God is a pain-sharer, not an unfeeling dispenser of cruel punishment. Those indispensable disclosures from God shone through the gloom, and helped Job to heal. His losses were real; they hurt him mightily. But God’s radiant being, which was there all along, enabled Job to put his awful memories in a safe place where the pain would not destroy him. 

As they walked along a Judean road, Jesus and his disciples came upon a blind beggar. The poor man had never had sight, and that prompted the disciples to ask, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?”[4] Jesus replied, “Neither this man nor his parents sinned; he was born blind so that God’s works might be revealed in him.”

With that kind of teaching Jesus took the Job story to a very personal conclusion. Job pushed back against the prevailing doctrine that people get what they deserve in this life. Jesus demolished it. But he did so not simply with words, as a philosopher or theologian might have. Jesus was the answer that the disciples were looking for. In him the Word became flesh; his being was full of grace and truth. He was God’s full disclosure of light – a light that is sufficient to dispel the deepest darkness.

The disciples looked at the man born blind and saw only sin. Jesus looked at the man and saw a person, a precious child of God. And he regarded him as a sufferer rather than an outcast. That’s why he stopped when the man called out to him for help. That’s why he touched the man, and prayed for light to shine in his darkness. The Word that became flesh is God’s gift of himself. It is God’s “compassion,” his “suffering with” the experiences we encounter daily. That godly presence, that gracious act of “being there,” does not deny pain. It affirms it, comforts it, and helps to heal it.

Where is God when we need him? He is with us, feeling what we feel, thinking what we think, enduring what we endure. His compassion is not just a thought, or a quaint sentiment. It is personal. It is real. It is there on the cross.

That is something to ponder, and to savor, because it is the way, the truth, and the life. Amen.     



[1] Schulz, “Classic Peanuts,” Richmond Times-Dispatch, Sunday, September 30, 2012.

[2] Job 1:4-5.

[3] Elie Wiesel described this unforgettable scene in his book, Night.

[4] John 9:1-12ff.

Life is Fragile. Handle it with Prayer

A Sermon for the Eighteenth Sunday after Pentecost

Year B – September 30, 2012

David H. Knight,  Priest Associate

Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my strength and my redeemer. Amen.

There are so many things that clamor to be said when it comes to the matter of prayer which is at the heart of today’s reading from the letter of James who writes,

“Are any among you suffering? They should pray. Are any cheerful? They should sing songs of praise. Are any among you sick? They should call for the elders of the church and have them pray over them, anointing them with oil in the name of the Lord. The prayer of faith will save the sick, and the Lord will raise them up and anyone who has committed sins will be forgiven…” James 5:13-15

 Among the things that Jeannie acquired from her mother is a little framed piece of needlepoint beautifully done with the inscription, “Life is fragile, handle it with prayer.”  We hear again from James words that speak to the very core of our being. Today’s reading continues the promise of which John spoke in his sermon last week—that  God is always there, seeking to heal, forgive and redeem us and inviting us to remain close to God in the midst of all. Today’s reading invites us to draw near to God in prayer.

 There are, as we experience, many forms of prayer. There are the beautifully crafted prayers found in our Prayer Book both for use in our common worship as well as use in our private devotions. Some of the prayers are ones we remember from childhood.  They are prayers that remain a source of strength even to our last days.  Some of my fondest memories of the last years with my father when he was a resident in healthcare at Westminster Canterbury were Sunday nights when we would spend time together as he was retiring for the night. While my dad never lost his dignity or his grace, or his ability to relate to people in his gentle way, his memory loss progressed during his final days. There were those times when he thought I was his brother, Franklin. I considered that an honor as Uncle Franklin was a fine man. One Saturday afternoon, I took my father to a car show of Buicks here in town. As we drove there that day he was thinking I was his brother. When we got to the show I spotted a beautifully restored 1936 Buick that I thought was like the  ’36 Buick he once had. I pointed it out to him and we went over see it. He looked at it and said, “But mine didn’t have the side mounts this one has.” (For those of you who are unenlightened about side mounts, they were spare tires in the front fenders) You see, the important stuff was still there, etched in his memory. That I was his son was less clear that day, but that was OK. He enjoyed the car show and we had a good time, and most of all he knew his cars.  But on Sunday nights, I would sit at his bedside as he went off to sleep as was our ritual. As I would be getting ready to leave I would say, “Dad, would you like to have a prayer together before I go?” He would say yes and invariably he would ask, “Do you live here now?” I would tell him yes and simply take his hand and start that familiar prayer for the evening, “O Lord, support us all the day long until the shadows lengthen and the evening comes…”  Dad would immediately join in and recite with me every word as this prayer was etched in his memory from childhood. We would continue together, “and the busy world is hushed, and the fever of life is over, and our work is done. Then in thy mercy, grant us a safe lodging, and a holy rest, and peace at the last. Amen.” And a sense of peace would come over him and he would rest. Such beautiful prayers these are, many of them learned on our mother’s knee or early in life, prayers that sustain us throughout our lives.

 There are many settings in which our prayers are voiced and heard by God such as the prayers we offer here this morning, or at home at our bedside or in any number of settings and places.  I recall what Bishop Alexander Stewart once said to a group of us newly ordained priests as he offered to us his wisdom on spiritual discipline. This was back in 1972 when I was a young, impressionable priest, eager to learn, and eager to emulate those who were my heroes.  (I hope I’m still eager to learn!) Bishop Stewart, of whom you have heard me speak was among those I deeply admired. He was a great pastor to his clergy, a great preacher, and, perhaps—just perhaps— one of the most creative drivers behind the wheel of a car in all ofWestern Massachusetts.  It was documented, for example, that he could leave the Cathedral inSpringfieldand arrive at any parish in the diocese of Western Massachusetts, a large geographical area, within 11 minutes. Driving in his 1971 Audi 100 LS 2-door coupe affectionately known throughout the diocese as “The Silver Bullet”,  he would simply adjust his ground speed accordingly. On occasion, if he had to travel the Massachusetts Turnpike, it might have taken him an additional seven minutes as he was, from time to time, invited to pull over and participate in a roadside interview with one of the Commonwealth of Massachusetts’ Finest. In any case, those of us who came under Bishop Stewart’s tutelage strived to emulate him in any way we could so that we too could become good priests, even if not bishops ourselves. I thought, therefore, that if I drove like Bishop Stewart, I too could become a fine priest. But back to his wisdom on spiritual discipline:  I remember him telling us one time that as clergy we would be spending a lot of time behind the wheel of our cars driving to hospitals and parish visitations and that this would be a good time to be in conversation with God.  It would provide us time to say our prayers. Some time thereafter, I shared that wisdom in a sermon I was preaching at St. Stephen’s in Westborough. My sermon was about prayer and after the service, at the door, a dear lady, a very thoughtful lady, a lady whose devotion and whose faith I admired, said to me, “David that was a magnificent sermon today.” Well, as you can imagine I could not have been more pleased. Coming from this lady, this was a compliment any preacher would covet. And then she added in a matter-of-fact tone, “And David, the way you drive, it’s a darn good thing you pray behind the wheel.” My elation was short lived as I began to pick up what she was putting down for me to hear. But having said that, the fact remains that the settings and circumstances for our prayers are as varied as they can be. Praying behind the wheel is a great place to have a conversation with God.

 Life indeed is fragile and we must handle it with Prayer.

 In these verses James offers examples the different occasions of prayer. Someone long ago suggested that prayers could be broken down to four categories, adoration, confession, thanksgiving, and supplication. We can see these in evidence both in our life in the church and within our personal lives.  These are the prayers that are spoken either by us or for us by others. There are those times when we give thanks, other times when our prayers of supplication call upon God for something we seek for ourselves or for others. But then, then, there is yet another kind of prayer that bears mentioning, a form which perhaps all too often we overlook or don’t recognize, yet it is a form of prayer that God hears. It is a form of prayer that happens during those times in our lives when we think we are unable to pray. It is those inarticulate groans we utter at times when we are in despair.  We do not think of our groaning as prayer yet it is, and it is amazing how scripture provides evidence that it is. The psalmist writes, “O Lord, you know all my desires, and my sighing is not hidden from you.”(Psalm 39:6)  Jesus groaned within himself because of the pain of seeing his friend Lazarus dead. In his letter to the church gathered inRome, Paul reminds us that the Spirit helps us in our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we ought, but that very Spirit intercedes with sighs too deep for words.  The instances of God’s people groaning in the bible indicate that God does hear our groans of pain and suffering. It is a physiological dynamic, for example, that a person in grief over loss will be given to frequent sighs, often unable to articulate in words the depth of their despair.  Those sighs are, in fact, a form of prayer and God hears those inarticulate sighs every bit as much as God hears our prayers delivered in the beauty of Elizabethan language from our Prayer Book.  

 Life indeed is fragile, and God hears our prayers in whatever form they take.

 The church, as a praying community engages, in all forms of prayers. Those names we include in the Prayers of the People are people who so often tell us how much it means to them to know that their parish is praying for them. Our prayers for them help to sustain them in ways we sometimes may never know. There are times when we are unable to pray for ourselves. We find strength in the knowledge that we are remembered each Sunday by the community of he faithful around us.  I remember visiting the bedside of Bishop John Baden, my beloved predecessor as rector of Christ Church and later suffragan bishop of Virginia.  When he retired, he was looking forward to raising sheep on his farm in Bunker Hill, West Virginia, a natural for him as he was a true shepherd. His journey, however, would take a sudden turn as he was diagnosed with a virulent form of cancer.  I saw him shortly following his surgery at the Winchester Hospital. He said to me, “Boy, (he often called me “boy”) you’re all going to have to pray for me because I cannot pray for myself .” He was just devastated. Now this was coming from a servant of God with a vision for the church who had a deep faith. He was a shepherd to so many, but now, he could not pray for himself. I assured him of our prayers.  Some time later, I was visiting him one snowy afternoon in his home in Bunker Hill. There was a nice fire in the fireplace as the wind and snow howled outside. Bishop Baden was cheerful that day. He looked at me and said, “You know those prayers you all have been offering?” I said, “Yes, Bishop.” He said, “Those prayers are helping. I still have the cancer and it’s not going away, but those prayers are what are keeping me going, and I am most grateful.” God heard his inarticulate groans and God heard the prayers of the church. These prayers ultimately sustained this man throughout his journey.  I asked him if it was OK for me to share that with others and he said yes, and I share it with you again now these years later, for his story bears testimony that God hears our prayers in whatever form they are offered, even when cannot articulate them ourselves.

One final thought: Those prayer shawls that some of you so beautifully knit are a form of prayer that brings comfort to those who receive them. Knitting them can even be a form of prayer as you might be thinking of those who will receive them.  Prayer changes lives, our own, and the lives of others. Prayer empowers us to draw near to God and be sustained through all that life can bring.

 As life is fragile, let us have the grace to handle it with prayer.  Amen.